Today, the world is in a constant state of flux. Constant personal development, career, overtime at work, chasing money and spending it. You could say that the world has gone crazy and has stood on its head. Almost everyone is in a hurry, forgetting about what is really important in life. Exactly – almost.
Despite this pursuit of material and financial goods, somewhere along the line there are people who try to live differently from the vast majority of society. They are the ones who created the idea of wedding in slow style, which we would like to present to you, as well as tips on how to organize a wedding in this style.
What is slow life?
Slow wedding is one of the manifestations of slow life. This informal movement focuses on living and experiencing everyday life instead of consuming material goods. What does it look like in practice?
Morning coffee drunk in no hurry, spending time with loved ones, e.g. while walking or watching your favorite film, enjoying small things and every moment. Followers of slow life also try to limit buying unnecessary things and care for the planet. Quality, not quantity, is important to them. Additionally, they try to live consciously, in every sense of the word.
What is a slow wedding?
All the aspects described above can be woven into the theme of a wedding and reception. We observe that more and more brides and grooms are trying to follow their own sense of taste, style and most of all their own dreams while wedding planning. It is a conscious choice, in accordance with what the Bride and Groom feel, and not following the path “because it is so appropriate/ because the in-laws want it/ because my cousin had it so…”.
Wedding receptions in slow style are ceremonies that focuses primarily on emotions, omitting the rich wedding setting in expensive venue. So no more organizing weddings in places where it is generally accepted that they are meant to be. No church wedding ceremony if the bride and groom are non-believers. No wedding dress with a big circle, white shoes, a bolero, gloves, etc., just because your mother or mother-in-law wants it and insists on it.
You only have a wedding day and reception once in your life. Slow style is about feeling authentic and free and kind of calm. People who have their own opinions and are not attracted to an imposed model of a wedding are lovers of this style. These are people with heads full of ideas, crazy and positive attitude to life.
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How to plan a reception and a wedding in a slow style?
If, while reading this article, deep down you feel that this style may be ideal for you, below we will present you the basic rules of arranging a slow party.
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Don’t give up on your dreams – do everything your own way.
It often happens that you organize your special day according to the vision of your parents, friends etc., against your own dreams. Sometimes going against the flow is difficult, but this day only happens once in a lifetime. Why should it be organized against your wishes and only for your relatives to feel comfortable?
If you want a barn wedding, have it there. If the groom would like to have a wooden bow tie for his suit – so be it. Slow weddings are not only about simplicity, but above all about fulfilling your dreams as a bride and groom, have fun during the day, instead of worrying about every detail during the party and constantly asking guests if they are all right.
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Don’t freak out when organizing – take it easy.
In the midst of getting things done for your party, it can sometimes happen that as a bride and groom, you forget what you are really doing it for. The hall, the menu, the orchestra or the DJ – these are just additions to the feeling that is between you. Both the wedding and the reception are the beginning of your journey together, so don’t let it be full of anger, nerves or arguments.
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If someone does not agree with your idea – do not get carried away. Listen to the other person, but keep planning everything according to your dreams and goals. You can never please everyone, and on this special day you are the most important. If you are happy on that day, every guest will be too.
Agree on a common vision of how to organize the wedding reception and party.
It is very important that the two of you are involved together in organizing your special day. At the very beginning, set the theme and style that you would like your wedding to have, and then try to stick to it. Consider whether a rustic wedding suits you, or perhaps a themed wedding such as Star Wars. If you dream of an outdoor wedding or a wedding in the mountains – nothing stands in your way. Everything depends on you. Remember that your styling should match the chosen theme.
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If the wedding will take place outdoors, in a beautiful garden, do not wear high and thin stilettos and feel uncomfortable, but opt for comfort, you can even go dancing bare foot if you like. Think about the menu, location of the dance floor, wedding playlist with music and floral arrangements on the tables and in the surroundings.
Follow your heart and rely on your emotions.
Do not listen to the advice of your older cousin, aunt, neighbor, uncle, mother’s friend, or even your best friend etc. They may have long since had their wedding behind them. Times change, themes and visions of weddings also change, plus everyone has different tastes. When organizing the most important day for you, surround yourself with positive people, who above all support you. Invite to the wedding only people who are important and friendly for you and your bride or groom. Do not bet on the number of guests, but on “quality”.
You will feel more at ease and have more fun when you are surrounded by your nearest and dearest. Don’t forget about emotions, either. Even the most expensive dress or suit in the world cannot replace romantic emotions and tears of happiness at the moment when you promise to spend your whole life with each other. This is your sweet day. It only takes place because man loves woman, and woman loves him.
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Follow the “less is more” rule.
Don’t order a ton of food that will have to be thrown away later. Instead, choose good quality local products, and if there is any leftover, try to give it to your guests in beautiful take-away packaging. If you are decorating yourself, limit or even avoid single-use plastic and opt for natural materials for decorations.
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You can even have a little DIY fun and create unusual decorations out of tulle, jute or tissue paper. They create a cozy and warm effect and are both cheaper and more environmentally friendly.
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Do not seek for unnecessary worries like if the dance song is okay or not.
Big day organization can make even the calmest of people worry unnecessarily and look for problems where there are none. What if it rains or the heat is too much? What if the guests don’t like the decor or the wedding dress? There is one piece of advice. SLOW! Don’t worry too much, just slow down. Not every matter is within your control, but if everything you have done in organizing the wedding and reception is according to your dreams, then start enjoying yourself and everyone is gonna love your party. If not, they are in the wrong place tonight.
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In the end, everything will be fine, and your guests will be delighted. Slow down. Don’t rush anywhere on that day, but experience it together. Find time for yourself that day. It could be breakfast together or coffee spent alone. The wedding and the reception are only an addition to your feelings. Don’t forget that it is your special moment, no one else’s.
Create a special atmosphere and have fun!
Surround your guests with care and love. Think of small, sweet gifts for them, such as a vial of mixed teas, small succulents or a bottle of your favorite alcohol. There are many ideas, you just have to find the right one. In addition, take an interest in whether your guests are enjoying themselves and try to exchange a few words with everyone. And also… Have fun!
This is your day. Laugh, dance to your perfect song, hug, touch, kiss, take photos with your loved ones. You have been waiting for this for a very long time, this is your celebration. And what about afterwards? Look at your wedding and reception photos, reminisce, make love and be happy for the rest of your life together.
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Taking wedding slow – is it for you?
Surely a chill out wedding is not for everyone, but there are certainly plenty of supporters. If you dream for a wedding that will not drain your bank account and be emotionally dragging, it is a sign that such a wedding theme is a perfect choice for you.